So, I did a thing today. I got impatient and restless with my natural dirty blonde and tried to make myself feel beautiful again with a box of blonde dye (I apologize to any hair stylist out there cringing right now – I love you, but I love the idea of being financially free more).
Now, I totally don’t intend to turn this into a beauty blog. But what I do intend to do is talk a little more about redefining La Dolce Vita beyond the stereotype. What is the sweet life beyond romance in the piazza and endless plates of spaghetti? Well, I definitely want both of those things in my life, but what about the day to day? I want to explore the ways that salt & bitter and all the flavors of life give sweetness depth and meaning. Creating YOUR version of La Dolce Vita every day, anywhere, including feeling good in your skin.
Also, do you remember when blogs where a lot more conversational circa 2009-2012? That’s when I read them for fun and really felt connected to the blogger. I miss those days. Informational posts are great and I’ll write those too, but I also want to feel free to be candid. This blog is about conversations and connection around the table, even if it’s a virtual one. So sometimes there’s recipes, and sometimes conversation about life. This is important for me to share.
So back to my hair.
I can’t explain it, but as a natural blonde since birth, I feel most like myself when my hair is light and bright. The dirty blonde color that my hair has become makes me feel (and look, in my opinion) dull.
I typically get my hair done at an Aveda salon, but with $200 bucks for a cut, highlights, and tip, plus maintenance every 6-8 weeks, it’s not sustainable, especially while doing Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover to go hard on paying off my student loans ASAP.
This is what my hair usually looks like after a trip to the Aveda salon. It does turn out beautiful, but to be honest, that shininess is mostly from the lighting. The before was taken in natural light, and the after was taken with professional lighting. So there ya go. It’s all about the lighting.
The salon color job was summer 2018. It grew out into a nice ombre, but as my roots had grown out a bit, but hair was too dark for my liking, so I took action. Here’s the Naturtint 10N results from my home dye job today on my dirty blonde hair.
It looks more brassy/yellow in person (this is also after using purple shampoo, and trying to remove some of the dye naturally with baking soda + dandruff shampoo to try to tone it down – which honestly I don’t think did much). I called the number on the Naturtint box, and they are sending me box of 10a (light ash blonde) to tone it down, although the reviews on Amazon mention that 10a is on the brassy side too. Funny, because the reviews that I read before selecting 10n said that it was NOT brassy. The crazy thing is that it looks like my hair was dipped in a sunbeam in person, but in pictures it is surprisingly mild. I might wait and see how much it fades before doing anything else!
I really wanted to write this post because I realized that I wasn’t any happier or more beautiful after coloring my hair, either with at the salon or with the box. I didn’t magically feel more beautiful. If anything, the salon made me feel guilty for dropping such a hefty price tag on my hair, and the box made me self-conscious about my limoncello strands.
I got to thinking, feeling beautiful should not cost me a $200 dye job every 6-8 weeks, or turning my hair unnatural colors at home. All of those outer enhancements mean nothing unless you can feel the beauty of your soul. How? I don’t have the answer, except that what you seek, you shall find.